Today I read an article on the legality of the desire for motherhood at all costs. Questioned the psychologist concluded that it is wrong to want a child at all costs because nowadays a woman can be heard performed in several other fields.
No one, however, occurred to me that perhaps the desire for motherhood is not only and always connected to a personal achievement, or rather atavistic. I think - but it's my personal opinion and debatable - most often the desire Maternity is perhaps linked to the contrary.
course that is right psychologist to say that the implementation takes place through other routes (work? Love? Friendship?), But it is also true that we women are so versatile and insatiable one thing that maybe is not enough. However, if our construction was to start a family, it would basically need to procreate, because to do this you need a husband (some might argue that this is one of the most difficult parts!) And to become mothers unlucky enough to adopt a child on which to pour a bit 'of love, and the family is created.
And if you want to feel useful for construction, then it still makes sense today to say that we useful only if we can procreate? and we are perhaps more useful in life, not by death? because sometimes women who are undergoing unspeakable torture to have children often leaving more dead than alive, because we want to have children even at 40 years and pretend that it is a walk, because we want to do it without pain and without a run, because we are afraid of what will be after we get sick and because of the evils of the century after giving birth, depression and cancer. It is good in women? Do you feel useful to give birth to a son who will not have a mom or a mom who hates him? I do not think ...
And maybe that's the meaning of the so-called postpartum depression. That we are not made to give birth to a son! Suddenly we realize that this alone is not enough to make us feel women. Because it is useless kidding, are not like our grandmothers (or maybe even great-grandmothers now!) All home and church. And a child is a responsibility and a commitment that we feel to face. What a wonderful thing that you have a child! But the effort does not end with the birth ... indeed start at that moment! Be careful, do not say that it is not a tremendous joy and pleasure that will not provoke the idea of \u200b\u200bsaying "it's mine, I did." I'm not saying even that is not nice to look after children love him, teach him life and all the things we know. I'm just saying that we must be prepared and that the implementation of a woman (like that of a man mind you) should not focus on the act of procreation. And even the usefulness of a woman, which we know can do many things and is able to be helpful in many ways.
A different approach has to be done for the reason that drives us sometimes to want children at all costs. It 'really achieving? It is rather a way to secure a future? Having a child, blood of your blood, it is a guarantee not to be left alone to face life's problems. Certainly it is not always so, but when you do you hope to grow affectionate and aware. I think many of us think that having a child will safeguard the loneliness of an old age without hope. Because you know, friends and loves do not last forever and, above all there is that bond that is in a relationship of blood. And I always hope that your children will survive more than you do to assist you to face old age and all the problems that follow. If nothing else, out of gratitude, you know, it's still a form of love. Because in the end the main problem today is precisely to address the problems! and since the problems we women, if they do not have, we create them without effort, we also need support. It's not even the main cause of depression, not knowing how to deal with the problems? So let's son - or we try - hoping that does not contribute to depression and that we ensure a secure support for our old age, if you get there (and even that is not obvious).
So why, Think what you will, is always purely selfish. But is it right to give birth to a child for selfishness? It is perhaps appropriate to think about it a bit '? 30 will be played or the latent desire for motherhood, but the case is to begin to think why do it and if you do so.
In any case it is not really the case (pardon the repetition) to do so at any cost, because whoever loses is not just women, but the poor creature who should be born.
